A Ruthless False Narrative–10 Years in the Making

There is a "new" story circulating, or at least it's new to me. After a decade of stalking me, my harasser and their close collaborators now say I am obsessed with her and that I want to be her.

That's rich.

Nothing could be further from the truth. To want to be someone, you have to admire them. I have zero admiration for a woman, her family and the collaborators who spend their time trying to destroy another person’s life, livelihood and reputation. This is simply the latest script in a 10-year campaign of harassment.

The Sympathetic Mask: A Decade+ of Deception

By relentlessly demonizing me, my harassers and their collaborators/recruits create an individual as a sympathetic figure when they are anything but. But ask yourself: What sympathetic figure orchestrates a campaign of harassment for over 10 years? What sympathetic figure weasels their way into someone's life to destroy them?

The Reality: Physical Violation and Identity Theft

This group has repeatedly broken into my apartment, followed me in the community, gone through my garbage, contacted friends on social media, infiltrated clients - it's amazing the breadth of activity. What's shocking is that I can't really go many places without being followed.

• The Copycat Tactic: Years ago, a disturbing pattern emerged: this individual and her collaborators began systematically gathering intelligence on my preferences, my routines, and my interests. By adopting my lifestyle choices as her own, she creates a "mirror effect" designed to mock me and flip the narrative. This is a calculated gaslighting tactic used to claim that I am the one following her, when in reality, she is simply performing a stolen version of my life, and has recruited countless people to help. Even convinced a close family member to take charge of the effort.
  

• Hacked My Security: They hacked my security, using the products I bought to protect against their stalking and intrusion against me.
  

• Social Media Sabotage: I have had to stop using social media because she treats my life like a menu—mimicking what I post, what I follow, and what I like, then claiming I am the one copying her. In fact, they even post on my feed and my client's social feed.
  

• Garbage Sifting: Collaborators in my building go through my trash, looking for any scrap of information to fuel their harassment. Please read the previous blog entry - "Still Here, Still Stalked."
  

• My Clients: They contacted my clients and have gone to great lengths to ruin my business and access my clients to ensure I lose business.
  

• Contact my Doctors: They contacted my healthcare providers and their staff. I have had to stop seeing several doctors. .

The Ever-Changing Script

For over a decade, the narrative has shifted whenever the old lies lost their luster or there's a new group of recruits to convince. The story is a moving target because the harassers target different groups with different lies.

• The "Man-Hunter" Narrative: For one group, the story was that I was "hunting" the initiator's boyfriend—which became her fiancé, then her husband, and now, her ex-husband.
  

• The "Predatory" Narrative: To others, the harassers (woman and her close allies and family) claimed my entire life was a calculation to find a man—claiming that mundane acts like playing Pickleball or simply walking through the halls and parking lot of my own home were actually "hunts" for men.
  

• The "Obsessed" Narrative: Now, for the newest recruits, the harassers (woman and her close allies and family) are weaving a layer of "obsession." She paints me as someone fixated on her life, her man, and her identity, when clearly it's the opposite. (Read Why Do They Bother)

Tactical Deception: Different Stories for Different Groups

The most disconcerting part is how easily these collaborators buy into the narrative.

The harassers are strategic; they engage different groups of people with completely different stories. Because these groups don't talk to one another, they don't see the inconsistencies. They "buy" the sympathetic victim because they aren't seeing the full, contradictory history of lies.

They don't realize they're being used as pawns in a decade-long fixation. They believe they're "helping" a friend, but in reality, they're participating in a coordinated campaign of stalking based on a script that changes whenever it’s convenient for the lead stalkers.

The Origins and Expansion: A Decade of Escalation

To understand the gravity of this situation, you have to look at how this began and how it has mutated over the last 10 years. This is a coordinated campaign that has grown like a virus.

The Origin Point

It started with one woman. For reasons known only to her, she began a fixation that has lasted over a decade. But she didn't act alone for long. She began engaging her circle of friends, feeding them manufactured grievances to recruit them into her stalking activities.

The Family "Mantle"

From there, the harassment expanded to her family members - one in particular. Whether they truly believe her shifting narratives or are simply choosing to be complicit, they have "taken up the mantle." This involvement shifted the harassment to a completely different level. It moved from petty social slights to:

• Infiltrating my professional life: Contacting my clients and business associates.

• Targeting my support system: Reaching out to my own friends and family on social media to spread her fabrications.

• Physical Invasions: Assisting in the coordination of the apartment break-ins and the sifting through of my personal trash.
  

The "New Recruits"

The most dangerous part of this expansion is her ability to constantly pull in "new recruits"— my friends, family, clients, colleagues, neighbors, building staff, or new acquaintances. Because the lead harassers present different stories to different groups, these new people don't see the 10-year history of inconsistencies. They see a "sympathetic figure" and don't realize they are being used as foot soldiers in a long-term criminal obsession.

These people are "buying" the story because they are only being shown one carefully curated piece of a very large, very ugly puzzle.

Read Why Do They Bother