Parte 8 Red Flags: The Stalker's Tactics

One of the stalker's tactics is to get members of this network of followers (associates) to to ask me the same question or comment about the same topic. (For why, read The Early Years)

For example: Does Miami have seasons?

This is an innocuous question. But when the same question is asked by a neighbor, then a client's employee, a person at pickleball, and an acquaintance or family member all within the span of a day or two the question means something more. 

First, what it isn't - a coincidence. Now for what it is: a sign of influence. It's intended to show the reach they have. But why bother?

"Stalking is not confined to physical intrusion; emotional and psychological abuse can also be inflicted. Abusers often use gaslighting, manipulation, and psychological torment to erode their victims' sense of self-worth and independence. This abuse sets the stage for the victim to become more susceptible to further control and manipulation. Stalkers may send threatening messages, vandalize property, or even physically confront their victims to instill fear and intimidate. This constant undercurrent of fear not only paralyzes the victim but also reinforces the stalker's control over their life. This climate sets the stage for an abusive relationship where the victim may feel powerless to escape." – from HumanOptions.org

It's all about dominance.

"Stalkers employ various tactics to assert dominance over their victims, such as invasive monitoring, constant surveillance, and unwarranted interference in personal matters. This need for control is a red flag that should not be underestimated." – HumanOptions.org

If you've read my blog posts, you know that the following has happened and continues to happen:

• Breaking into my apartment

• Tracking my phone

• Following in and out of my building, to the theater, supermarket, doctor, wherever.

• Spreading lies and rumors to harm my reputation and business.

• Engaging my neighbors, clients, family, and friends

This person is a textbook stalker – through and through. Interestingly, the followers (associates) don't realize how they are being used and manipulated. And by participating, they, in turn, become stalkers too.

There are three groups of people as I see it:

• Followers – These are people who engage and do what they're asked. They believe the false narratives and use them as a reason to engage. They can't and don't see that the stalker as a stalker.
  

• People who recognize this is a fucked-up situation and prefer not to get involved.
  

• Non-believers: Naive bystanders who can't fathom that anyone could do anything like this.