Part 2: The Early Years

The stalking and harassing began in mid-2015, definitely before the lead stalker got married and years before children entered the picture. It should be noted that this harassment continued during this individuals first pregnancy and subsequent ones with the help of many people.

2015 In mid-2015, this individual began following. It started when I was at Equinox on Brickell. This person engaged several individuals at the gym, management, trainers and members with whom I worked out with and knew.

I started noticing people following at the gym. I spoke to the gym management but we couldn't prove anything. I did beg them to please keep my information private, which they didn't.

About the Gym

I was a member of Equinox on Brickell when it was first Sports Club LA. That is where I met the stalker’s other – before they were a partner, spouse, or a fiance or whatever. It should be noted I was a member before the stalker's other joined.

I only spoke to this individual's other at the gym. We never dated. We never even had coffee. I did, however, see this individual a lot driving in my neighborhood and at the Fresh Market in the Grove.

I was not the only individual who spoke to the stalker’s other. I don’t know if the stalker has me confused with someone else.  

What remains a mystery is why the stalker is so obsessed because that’s what this is – a full-blown obsession.

The level of harassment I have had to endure since 2015 (before the stalker was married or had children) is incredible.  

Contacted the first client

In 2015, the stalker began showing up at different places, including at a client meeting in the Gables. And, by the way, I lost this client. I got hacked several times - once in the fall and once before New Year's Eve.

The behavior kept increasing and I even hired an attorney and he hired a private investigator. We even sent a cease and desist letter to someone who was helping the stalker.

My building & Neighbors

Separately, I discovered that it was around this time that this individual had befriended people in my building, including people on my floor.

Gables Co-workspace In the summer of 2016, I joined a co-workspace in the Gables. This person befriended people there. I got hacked at this co-workspace. The hacker was the individual in charge of the technology and wifi system at this co-work space. They were also another co-workspace member.  

We knew who it was because when I innocently asked the short, fat man who oversaw the WIFI network about the security of the system, he turned quite pale and disappeared for several weeks.

Our evidence against him was largely circumstantial. He didn't leave a trail except for the guilty behavior. The attorney advised me to leave the co-workspace, which I did.

After that...

• I had to leave Equinox and other gyms because of the stalking.

• I lost clients.

• I lost friends – almost all of them. More on that in another entry.

Leverage and connections

We realized this person was using some sort of leverage to engage people to help. Because of who this individual was planning to marry, their money and name carried a lot of weight.

This person's father is also well connected with police and fire departments in the community. This will play heavily in the years to come.

2018

The harassment continued for several years. On the advisement of a colleague, I filed a request for a restraining order. It turns out this individual had a baby days before the court hearing.

When you file a restraining order, the court requires information about the person you're naming in the document including an address. I contacted the investigator from before and he tracked down the address. He was the one that told me about the pregnancy. He asked me whether we should proceed.

My thinking was as follows: I had been subjected to intense stalking and harassment for 2.5 years, before this person married, and then after and all through their pregnancy. Why should I hold off if this person didn't?

I didn't file a restraining order because they were pregnant. I filed it because the harassment and stalking didn't stop for 2.5 years regardless of this person's life circumstances, including marriage and pregnancy. It should be noted that this individual continued the stalking and harassment during this pregnancy and during others and, of course, after each.

The judge didn't approved the restraining order because the evidence was circumstantial and I couldn't get people to speak to the judge, much less in a courtroom, about what they were asked to do.

At the time, I begged this person's attorney to make it stop. I'll elaborate on the attorney in a future blog post.

2019 My apartment is broken into and surveillance equipment is placed in my apartment. We have good reason to believe the security supervisor provided the key. We do know one of my neighbors assisted.

Let’s recap:

• Harassment started in mid-2015. The person wasn't married and didn't have children.
  

• This person befriended individuals living in my building, including a couple on my floor.
  

• Befriended people to my gym, friends, trainers and management
  

• This person befriended individuals living in my building, including a couple on my floor.
  

• Begins contacting clients. We know the first client that was contacted and when they first showed up themselves.
  

• Begins computer hacking and more.
  

• This person befriended individuals living in my building, including a couple on my floor.
  

• I reference this person's date of marriage in the Who, What, Where, When, Why and How post. Read that. It's very interesting.
  

• Restraining order filed in 2018. The hearing took place before or just after birth of this individual's child.
  

  • We know this individual and their associates like to say the stalking is in response to the restraining order during the pregnancy. This couldn't be more wrong. The restraining order was filed 2.5 years after the harassment started and had persisted despite this person's pregnancy.
    

• Apartment break-in takes place in 2019. At this time, surveillance equipment placed in several places in my home.
  

• Since 2019, the activity has been substantial. See earlier posts and more details to come.
  

 About Stalkers "Stalking is not confined to physical intrusion; emotional and psychological abuse can also be inflicted. Abusers often use gaslighting, manipulation, and psychological torment to erode their victims' sense of self-worth and independence. This abuse sets the stage for the victim to become more susceptible to further control and manipulation. Stalkers may send threatening messages, vandalize property, or even physically confront their victims to instill fear and intimidate. This constant undercurrent of fear not only paralyzes the victim but also reinforces the stalker's control over their life. This climate sets the stage for an abusive relationship where the victim may feel powerless to escape." – from HumanOptions.org

It's all about dominance.

"Stalkers employ various tactics to assert dominance over their victims, such as invasive monitoring, constant surveillance, and unwarranted interference in personal matters. This need for control is a red flag that should not be underestimated." – HumanOptions.org